Well folks, the band-aid has been finally ripped off. After weeks of anticipation and no small amount of tears (on my part), I dropped my kid off at the University of Mississippi and drove back 618 miles (or so) without him. For those of you that have not done this college drop off thing, let me share this with you–the anticipation is worse than the reality. Does it royally suck to say goodbye? Yes. Did I cry my eyes out for a couple of hours? Yes. Am I now curled up in a fetal position on the floor since I’ve been home? Absolutely not. Life goes on–especially when there’s still one more child at home, and we’re in the beginning of football season. So now that I’ve had some time to reflect on the process, leaving FOR Ole Miss was much worse than leaving FROM Ole Miss! I’m not a cold, heartless mother, but the reality is that I’ve heard more from Jake via text than I ever did when he was at home. He’s happy. He’s making friends, he’s eating regularly, he’s even done a load of laundry! And, like the psycho-stalking mother that I am, I do still keep his location services on my Find My Friends App, so whenever I start to miss him I can just look at the app and see where he is. I’ve weaned myself down to about twice a day, and I’m OK with that!!
Although the general tone of the weekend was a little sad and nostalgic, there were some happy times and high points as well. The first came when we were at dinner at Boure in the Square. If you’re ever in Oxford, you must eat here. I love the fried green tomatoes, and Michael is a big fan of the Peacemaker sandwich with oysters, shrimp and crawfish. The have a different kind of bread pudding for dessert every night that will knock your socks off. Dinner was great, but the high point was when two subscribers came over to say hello. You all don’t know how much I needed a distraction, and I LOVED meeting you!! Thank you ladies-you know who you are! I also got to very briefly meet another subscriber who has become a friend in real life-and she also met Jake separately. The text I received from Jake (MOM!!! I got recognized!!!) made me smile! Please, if you ever see me out and about, no matter what I’m up to, PLEASE come over and say hello!! It means the world to me!!
It also made my mom heart happy to see Jake’s room set up to be his home away from home for the next 9 months. It makes me feel good to know that he has everything he needs, plus his room looks nice, too!! Maybe it will motivate him to keep his room a little cleaner than he might otherwise have!
The hero product of the weekend was my Vichy Dermafinish Foundation. I know this sounds completely vain, but I didn’t want to have to think too much about my makeup during move-in weekend. I wanted to still look nice and relatively put together, but I also wanted to be able to just slap it on and not have to touch up throughout the day. I also wanted my foundation to stay on through the high humidity and the potential tears. Let me tell you, this stuff was amazing. Take a look at the picture below-this is AFTER I’ve had the makeup on for about 12 hours, AFTER walking over 11,000 steps in 90% humidity, AFTER hauling Jake’s stuff up a hill and then up two flights of stairs, and AFTER some tears.
I was going to write a whole post with my advice on how to get through move-in with your college student, but really, there’s a ton of stuff already out there. So I will leave you with this-use a waterproof foundation like the Vichy Dermafinish (you don’t want the last image your child has of you looking like you’ve been dragged through bushes backwards) AND get a collapsible wagon with sides on it like this one from Wayfair:We brought a collapsible flatbed dolly, and it worked all right, but we couldn’t really stack much on it and since it was made of plastic most of the stuff kept sliding off. A wagon like the one pictured above can hold a ton of stuff, and you’re going to need it again for move out. Definitely worth the investment!!
So if you haven’t already done so, have a look at this week’s vlog–this one means a lot to me. It documented one of the biggest milestones of the Goldberg Family History, and I’m thrilled that you all came along for the ride!